Suicide is the biggest killer of British men under 40, did you know that ?
Nothing else is killing our men more – If suicide was seen as a disease, then this would be an epidemic. And yet what is being done about it ? What support is there for our men ?
Recently there has been more awareness of Depression, more people standing up and saying ‘ I have depression, and I’m not ashamed..’
But still – thousands of men are suffering in silence.
Until recently one of those men was my future husband. My soul mate. My daughters Daddy.
After months of to-ing and fro-ing I convinced him to see a Doctor. I went with him for support, and I’m glad I did.
It was obvious after explaining quite clearly how Ryan was feeling – that this doctor believed all he needed was a good nights sleep and to ‘just get on with it.‘
Firstly – a symptom of depression is broken sleep. Ryan couldn’t get to sleep at night, but come morning wouldn’t want to get out of bed.
Secondly how deflating…. All those weeks of me promising that this would help, that he would be supported after this visit and the Quack is an Arsehole.
It wasn’t the end though. I persisted. We went again after I requested to see a different person. The next Doctor was a wonderwoman. She immediately asked what Ryan wanted to do – any form of treatment he was after in particular..
He wasn’t sure so she wrote a prescription for Anti-D’s. Gave him a website to look through at night if he couldn’t sleep. But most importantly – she spoke to him. Listened to him. Understood him.
It was a huge help in his recovery. It finally felt like that dark cloud of ‘Men under 40…. Suicide….. Depression…..’ That had been looming over us for weeks was finally clearing.
Not all men have that support though. When the cloud of depression appears it can make you feel that you are a burden on your loved ones, that no one could understand you. That you are wasting anyone’s time talking about your problems. Your worries. Your life. They might be let down by their doctor, they may need someone to take the strain off, to show them that they are there.
If there’s one thing anyone reading this should do today, it’s reach out to your men. Your brothers, your best friends, your boyfriends or husbands. It could make a world of difference .
Useful links :
About suicidal feelings – http://bit.ly/1Xce60S
Helpline for young men, through CALM – 0800 58 58 58
Symptoms of depression – http://bit.ly/1hFLkya